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Mourning the World

"A wonderful reminder about the things that bring us joy, but we so often overlook due to daily minutia."
- greg_j_tomamichel
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SpaceX IPO: Is Margin Optional?

"I am actually going to buy but not until the first financials come out after the IPO. I expect their stock price will be down quite a bit after 3-6 months once the hype is over. Figure I’ll put in apx 2% of my investable assets, so just enough to dream without sacrificing too much. Put it in my Roth account and it will sit there the next 20-30 years and if it does real well my boys will be happy!"
- Joe
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A Time to Save

"Got it, thank you."
- Andy Morrison
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The Quiet Failure of Good Advice

"Javier, Great job of stimulating discussion! I'm interested in responding to question 2, but first..
  1. I'm on my third advisor. The first two we AUM based and CFPs, and I let them go because they didn't quite meet my needs. For less than a year now, I've been with a flat fee advisor and so far so good. I'm not sure my financial position is any better as a result, but I have learned a bunch as I head toward retirement in the next couple of years.
  2. I think an important answer here revolves around the emotional feelings that people have about their money. This isn't a pretty picture, but I think it's true for many. Often we are our own worst enemy.
a. Men in particular, at times can behave very self-sufficient, unwilling to get help, and unwilling to admit that they made mistakes or bad decisions. Why would I want to present my most intimate financial details to someone who would belittle what I've done? I'm fine, I don't need any help. b. Trust issues. There are countless stories of those (usually famous people like Billy Joel) who have been used and abused financially. If I give you access to my money why should I believe you'll do the best thing for me and not steal from me?"
- John Verlautz
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Country Club Venture Capital 

"Mark, I’m catching up on my HD reading. Fun article, keep writing :)! …and a bit jealous of your soccer (ah, football) and PGA championship solo day…sounded very fun to me ;)"
- Andy Morrison
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Moving is Expensive!

"This is timely for me! We closed on our new house, halfway across the country on 4/18. We finally had our household goods delivered last Friday May 29, after a 10 day delay. That was costly. Right now I'm surfing HD while on the phone with AT&T who has been unable to set up Internet since 4/19. I work from home, so thankfully the hotspot on my phone has been effective. Just a few random drops. Unlike your efficient process, we continue to have partially unpacked boxes strewn across the home, and are dealing with associated stress. Life is good!"
- John Verlautz
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The Ping

"Michael, from my limited experience, there seems to be a market for absolutely everything. Last Christmas, my daughter bought a bowtie for her 30-year-old fiancé and he absolutely loved it. Personally, I was slightly embarrassed just being in his radius when he actually chose to debut it in public... with jeans and a casual shirt."
- Mark Crothers
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Money and Me

JONATHAN CLEMENTS’S final book was released this week. Titled Money and Me, it traces the arc of Jonathan’s nearly four-decade career as a personal finance columnist.

Money and Me starts with the story of a man named George Cope, who was a nineteenth century tobacco baron. At the time of his death in 1888, Cope was one of Britain’s richest men. But within just two generations, his fortune was gone. Why? Cope’s daughter was the sole heir to her father’s fortune, but she lived what Jonathan described as a Downton Abbey lifestyle, on an estate in the Cotswolds with five homes and eight children. Before long, the fortune was gone.

This story was of interest to Jonathan because George Cope was his great-great-grandfather. He called it the “big family story” and explains that this hard financial lesson was imprinted on everyone in his family from a young age.

In part because of this family story, Jonathan got interested in personal finance, and, among his peers, was early in focusing on the psychology of money. “I like to think I’m rational in the way I spend my dollars, and I suspect most readers do, too. We are, of course, deluding ourselves,” he wrote.

Early in his career, Jonathan covered mutual funds for Forbes, then The Wall Street Journal. Each week, he'd review a different fund and interview the fund’s manager. From that vantage point, he was early in recognizing a reality about Wall Street: that they’re great marketers but not such great investment managers. After reviewing scores of actively-managed funds, Jonathan came to the conclusion that index funds were a better way to go for most investors.

Since the investing question was “solved,” as he put it, by index funds, Jonathan turned his attention to other domains in personal finance. The relationship between money and happiness was of particular interest. Though he acknowledged that each of us has a happiness “set point” that is largely fixed, he pointed out that our happiness level isn’t entirely fixed. There’s plenty we can do to move the needle.

A chapter titled “15 Ways to Happy” includes a number of practical suggestions. Among them: Jonathan always recommended making plans—especially vacation plans—far in advance. Why? “Often, the best part of a purchase or experience is the anticipation, he explained.And since it doesn’t cost more to book early—indeed, it often costs less—that was his recommendation.

Jonathan leaned heavily on academic research and helped translate its findings for everyday investors. In Money and Me, he explains concepts from psychology including the hedonic treadmill, eudaimonic happiness and many others. Jonathan acknowledged that there’s no magic wand for achieving happiness. On the other hand, he explains why a million-dollar salary isn’t a necessary ingredient for financial contentment.

Jonathan also wrote a lot about spending. On the one hand, owing to his family’s experience, he developed frugal habits early in life, and he was grateful that those habits led to financial independence by age 50. On the other hand, he knew that frugality could be taken too far. In a chapter titled “Don’t Overdo It,” Jonathan offers a menu of ideas to help others who might similarly struggleto loosen the purse strings.

Jonathan had two children and thought a lot about how best to convey money values to them. He knew the risk in helping too much. Money doesn’t necessarily kill all ambition. But it seems to put a big dent in financial ambition, he wrote. For that reason, Jonathan mostly emphasized education rather than direct financial assistance. 

He describes, however, one important way in which his own parents helped him: They always made it clear that they were there for him as a backstop. Though he might have never needed it, simply knowing this support was in the background gave Jonathan the confidence to always invest heavily in the stock market. He describes maintaining an allocation to stocks that was regularly above 80% or even 90%. That kind of aggressive investing ran contrary to the textbook. But recognizing the benefit it had provided during strong markets over the years, Jonathan offered a similar backstop to his own children, thus allowing them to take risks that they might not have otherwise.

In choosing a heavy allocation to stocks, Jonathan explains some of the other factors that went into his thinking. For starters, he points to the role of financial forecasters. They’re often wrong, but that doesn’t stop them from waking up the next day with something new to say. As a result, during both stock market rallies and routs, prognosticators can be found on TV telling stories that often cause investors to overreact. In the chapter “Not Scared of Bears,” Jonathan walks through the math that should give investors the courage to ignore forecasters, to keep their feet on the ground and to stay fully invested regardless of what bad news happens to be in the headlines.

Jonathan was willing to pile on even more risk in his portfolio when markets declined. He acknowledged that this opened him up to the accusation of being a market timer—“pretty much the nastiest insult you can hurl”—but he explains a subtle difference between his approach and true market timing, then offers a helpful strategy for profiting from downturns.

Jonathan Clements was one of a kind. Like all of his readers, I miss his kindness, wit and good cheer. For decades, he helped readers navigate the potholed road known as Wall Street. With his final work, Jonathan leaves us with a timeless guide to thinking about money in uniquely sensible ways.

  Adam M. Grossman is the founder of Mayport, a fixed-fee wealth management firm. Sign up for Adam's Daily Ideas email, follow him on X @AdamMGrossman and check out his earlier articles.
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Shopping carts again…but not what you think

"I totally get your point about finding hidden savings, and I suspect it applies to many, but it’s worth noting how subjective this can be. Anyone could look into another person's cart and find something to disagree with—whether it's a six-pack of beer, a bottle of wine, or an expensive steak. Depending on consumption levels, and the consumer's personal health, you could even argue some of these choices are unhealthy. But the larger point is one person’s 'non-essential' prepared dessert is another person’s hard-earned reward. Budgeting is rarely one-size-fits-all because what we value is so personal. Additionally, we never know the financial reality of the person pushing the cart. Many of those carts are being propelled by people for whom money is simply no object, making the exercise of auditing a stranger's groceries a bit of a moot point."
- John Katz
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Peter Cancro from age 14 to 69 covered in oil and vinegar

"Your comment about Mr Cathy "not being fair" to his children is inaccurate and mischaracterizes the nature of the restrictions he placed on his heirs.  He did impose strict operational and financial conditions on the future of Chick-fil-A, because he wanted to preserve the company's Christian values and charitable mission, not to unfairly penalize his children. He also did not restrict, or forbid, the sale of the company; he only prohibited taking it public (IPO) to ensure that shareholder pressure would not compromise the company's charitable giving and religious principles. Not being open on Sunday's may be a drawback to some, but Chick-fil-A ranks #1 in customer satisfaction among fast-food chains for the 11th consecutive year according to the 2025 American Customer Satisfaction Index. Many of my neighbors are retired executives of the company. The story of Jersey Mike's is interesting. I've been enlightening my knowledge of the criticism Cancro received regarding his sale of a majority stake in Jersey Mike's to private equity firm Blackstone."
- Olin
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Percentage that “age in place”

"I read all the comments to date and I appreciate this thoughtful discussion, as well as Keith's thoughtful launch of the topic. Having now made three placements for two people in 3 categories (cottage care, assisted living, and memory care) and visited about 20 sites in our area, I can agree with both sides of this discussion. (There are now hundreds of sites in our area!) First, running these facilities can be a passion project, but more typically it is a big business with a lot of marketing involved and healthy profit margins. The first person you see is usually a pure and simple salesperson who comes across as caring and empathetic, but is focused on doing their job of signing people up for an expensive service operated by a rich person or group whom you will never see. Often this is called something along the lines of a "community care representative." Regarding cost, in a larger community like ours, just under a million, but serving a larger catchment area that adds another 50%, in a desirable lifestyle area, there is a complete range of options from those who take medicaid (or do after a period of time) to those over $10k per month and only private pay. The CCRC's are just moving in. And I know for a fact that buying what you don't yet need in advance always comes at a premium, so yes the market plays to the needs, fantasies, fears, and anxieties of people in the target audience. BTW, if there is a waiting list and it is not a CCRC, usually you can get a place on it for a refundable deposit, typically a check not cashed. This gives you priority on the list when you do need a spot. Also, while some communities may always be full, more typically the flow is rough--people do not die or otherwise leave on a schedule, so a facility with 40 units might be full in December, but have 5 units available in early February. (That also speaks to the unevenness of when people are looking to enter, and yes, we moved our mom into a secure unit mid-February.) Finally, the two factors that I leaned on the most are proximity to family and quality of staff. Every other factor ends up being more sizzle than steak. I didn't figure this out myself, I had to be told and then also experience it. I also learned that facilities (and teams) dedicated to memory care do a better job than ones that just include it--if 80% of the residents are in assisted living, that's where the focus of management and facility will be, same if most of the residents are in independent living."
- Steve Spinella
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Don’t Quantify the Qualitative

"Thank you Jeff for the comment. That's a wonderful observation. Looking back, I think you're right, there are teachers who inspire us, teachers who discourage us, and a much larger group we simply forget. The fact that we still remember certain teachers decades later says something remarkable about the influence they had on our lives."
- Andrew Clements
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Mourning the World

"A wonderful reminder about the things that bring us joy, but we so often overlook due to daily minutia."
- greg_j_tomamichel
Read more »

SpaceX IPO: Is Margin Optional?

"I am actually going to buy but not until the first financials come out after the IPO. I expect their stock price will be down quite a bit after 3-6 months once the hype is over. Figure I’ll put in apx 2% of my investable assets, so just enough to dream without sacrificing too much. Put it in my Roth account and it will sit there the next 20-30 years and if it does real well my boys will be happy!"
- Joe
Read more »

A Time to Save

"Got it, thank you."
- Andy Morrison
Read more »

The Quiet Failure of Good Advice

"Javier, Great job of stimulating discussion! I'm interested in responding to question 2, but first..
  1. I'm on my third advisor. The first two we AUM based and CFPs, and I let them go because they didn't quite meet my needs. For less than a year now, I've been with a flat fee advisor and so far so good. I'm not sure my financial position is any better as a result, but I have learned a bunch as I head toward retirement in the next couple of years.
  2. I think an important answer here revolves around the emotional feelings that people have about their money. This isn't a pretty picture, but I think it's true for many. Often we are our own worst enemy.
a. Men in particular, at times can behave very self-sufficient, unwilling to get help, and unwilling to admit that they made mistakes or bad decisions. Why would I want to present my most intimate financial details to someone who would belittle what I've done? I'm fine, I don't need any help. b. Trust issues. There are countless stories of those (usually famous people like Billy Joel) who have been used and abused financially. If I give you access to my money why should I believe you'll do the best thing for me and not steal from me?"
- John Verlautz
Read more »

Country Club Venture Capital 

"Mark, I’m catching up on my HD reading. Fun article, keep writing :)! …and a bit jealous of your soccer (ah, football) and PGA championship solo day…sounded very fun to me ;)"
- Andy Morrison
Read more »

Moving is Expensive!

"This is timely for me! We closed on our new house, halfway across the country on 4/18. We finally had our household goods delivered last Friday May 29, after a 10 day delay. That was costly. Right now I'm surfing HD while on the phone with AT&T who has been unable to set up Internet since 4/19. I work from home, so thankfully the hotspot on my phone has been effective. Just a few random drops. Unlike your efficient process, we continue to have partially unpacked boxes strewn across the home, and are dealing with associated stress. Life is good!"
- John Verlautz
Read more »

The Ping

"Michael, from my limited experience, there seems to be a market for absolutely everything. Last Christmas, my daughter bought a bowtie for her 30-year-old fiancé and he absolutely loved it. Personally, I was slightly embarrassed just being in his radius when he actually chose to debut it in public... with jeans and a casual shirt."
- Mark Crothers
Read more »

Money and Me

JONATHAN CLEMENTS’S final book was released this week. Titled Money and Me, it traces the arc of Jonathan’s nearly four-decade career as a personal finance columnist.

Money and Me starts with the story of a man named George Cope, who was a nineteenth century tobacco baron. At the time of his death in 1888, Cope was one of Britain’s richest men. But within just two generations, his fortune was gone. Why? Cope’s daughter was the sole heir to her father’s fortune, but she lived what Jonathan described as a Downton Abbey lifestyle, on an estate in the Cotswolds with five homes and eight children. Before long, the fortune was gone.

This story was of interest to Jonathan because George Cope was his great-great-grandfather. He called it the “big family story” and explains that this hard financial lesson was imprinted on everyone in his family from a young age.

In part because of this family story, Jonathan got interested in personal finance, and, among his peers, was early in focusing on the psychology of money. “I like to think I’m rational in the way I spend my dollars, and I suspect most readers do, too. We are, of course, deluding ourselves,” he wrote.

Early in his career, Jonathan covered mutual funds for Forbes, then The Wall Street Journal. Each week, he'd review a different fund and interview the fund’s manager. From that vantage point, he was early in recognizing a reality about Wall Street: that they’re great marketers but not such great investment managers. After reviewing scores of actively-managed funds, Jonathan came to the conclusion that index funds were a better way to go for most investors.

Since the investing question was “solved,” as he put it, by index funds, Jonathan turned his attention to other domains in personal finance. The relationship between money and happiness was of particular interest. Though he acknowledged that each of us has a happiness “set point” that is largely fixed, he pointed out that our happiness level isn’t entirely fixed. There’s plenty we can do to move the needle.

A chapter titled “15 Ways to Happy” includes a number of practical suggestions. Among them: Jonathan always recommended making plans—especially vacation plans—far in advance. Why? “Often, the best part of a purchase or experience is the anticipation, he explained.And since it doesn’t cost more to book early—indeed, it often costs less—that was his recommendation.

Jonathan leaned heavily on academic research and helped translate its findings for everyday investors. In Money and Me, he explains concepts from psychology including the hedonic treadmill, eudaimonic happiness and many others. Jonathan acknowledged that there’s no magic wand for achieving happiness. On the other hand, he explains why a million-dollar salary isn’t a necessary ingredient for financial contentment.

Jonathan also wrote a lot about spending. On the one hand, owing to his family’s experience, he developed frugal habits early in life, and he was grateful that those habits led to financial independence by age 50. On the other hand, he knew that frugality could be taken too far. In a chapter titled “Don’t Overdo It,” Jonathan offers a menu of ideas to help others who might similarly struggleto loosen the purse strings.

Jonathan had two children and thought a lot about how best to convey money values to them. He knew the risk in helping too much. Money doesn’t necessarily kill all ambition. But it seems to put a big dent in financial ambition, he wrote. For that reason, Jonathan mostly emphasized education rather than direct financial assistance. 

He describes, however, one important way in which his own parents helped him: They always made it clear that they were there for him as a backstop. Though he might have never needed it, simply knowing this support was in the background gave Jonathan the confidence to always invest heavily in the stock market. He describes maintaining an allocation to stocks that was regularly above 80% or even 90%. That kind of aggressive investing ran contrary to the textbook. But recognizing the benefit it had provided during strong markets over the years, Jonathan offered a similar backstop to his own children, thus allowing them to take risks that they might not have otherwise.

In choosing a heavy allocation to stocks, Jonathan explains some of the other factors that went into his thinking. For starters, he points to the role of financial forecasters. They’re often wrong, but that doesn’t stop them from waking up the next day with something new to say. As a result, during both stock market rallies and routs, prognosticators can be found on TV telling stories that often cause investors to overreact. In the chapter “Not Scared of Bears,” Jonathan walks through the math that should give investors the courage to ignore forecasters, to keep their feet on the ground and to stay fully invested regardless of what bad news happens to be in the headlines.

Jonathan was willing to pile on even more risk in his portfolio when markets declined. He acknowledged that this opened him up to the accusation of being a market timer—“pretty much the nastiest insult you can hurl”—but he explains a subtle difference between his approach and true market timing, then offers a helpful strategy for profiting from downturns.

Jonathan Clements was one of a kind. Like all of his readers, I miss his kindness, wit and good cheer. For decades, he helped readers navigate the potholed road known as Wall Street. With his final work, Jonathan leaves us with a timeless guide to thinking about money in uniquely sensible ways.

  Adam M. Grossman is the founder of Mayport, a fixed-fee wealth management firm. Sign up for Adam's Daily Ideas email, follow him on X @AdamMGrossman and check out his earlier articles.
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Shopping carts again…but not what you think

"I totally get your point about finding hidden savings, and I suspect it applies to many, but it’s worth noting how subjective this can be. Anyone could look into another person's cart and find something to disagree with—whether it's a six-pack of beer, a bottle of wine, or an expensive steak. Depending on consumption levels, and the consumer's personal health, you could even argue some of these choices are unhealthy. But the larger point is one person’s 'non-essential' prepared dessert is another person’s hard-earned reward. Budgeting is rarely one-size-fits-all because what we value is so personal. Additionally, we never know the financial reality of the person pushing the cart. Many of those carts are being propelled by people for whom money is simply no object, making the exercise of auditing a stranger's groceries a bit of a moot point."
- John Katz
Read more »

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Manifesto

NO. 7: THE TWO easiest financial wins are paying off credit card debt and putting enough in our 401(k) to get the full employer match. Failing to do either is the height of financial foolishness.

Truths

NO. 77: TO MINIMIZE taxes, use your taxable account to own stock index funds, municipal bonds and Treasury bonds. Stock index funds in a taxable account will benefit from the low federal tax rate on qualified dividends and long-term capital gains. Meanwhile, the municipal bonds should be tax-free and the Treasurys will avoid taxes at the state level.

think

SELF-INSURE. If we have a moderate amount of savings, we might choose to scale back our insurance coverage and perhaps drop some policies entirely, and instead self-insure. Let’s say we have enough set aside for retirement. We might cancel our disability insurance, knowing we could cover costs for the rest of our life, even if we never worked again.

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PUT RETIREMENT first. Are you socking away at least 12% of your pretax income toward retirement, including any matching contribution to your employer’s retirement plan? To amass enough for retirement, you may need to throttle back other financial ambitions, including the size of the house you buy and how much you help your kids with college costs.

My Money Journey

Manifesto

NO. 7: THE TWO easiest financial wins are paying off credit card debt and putting enough in our 401(k) to get the full employer match. Failing to do either is the height of financial foolishness.

Spotlight: Cars

Car talk- Quinn likes friendliness

What do you look for when buying a car? Quality, reliability, safety features, good mileage? Yup all that plus I like technology and friendliness.
My new car has more cameras than Kodak. When I use the navigation it shows a live image of the turn so it’s hard to miss. It uses the cameras to find a space and park itself. If I get lost I just say, “Take me home.”
When I start the car it says,

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Car Quest

WHEN MY SON STARTED graduate school seven years ago, we enticed him to save money by living at home. The catch: He’d need a set of wheels. Lori and I offered to help, provided he was open to a used vehicle. He agreed, and off we went to the nearest Honda dealership.
We were greeted in the parking lot by an enthusiastic salesperson. He invited us inside to chat, and promptly asked us what monthly car payment we were seeking.

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Mercedes and Me

MY FATHER WAS A CAR salesman. For the last 20 years of his career, he sold Mercedes and he was good at it. He even won a sales contest that included a trip to Germany to tour the factory.
Unfortunately, selling Mercedes does not mean you can afford one. But he did get to drive them. As a kid, I was also hooked. When I was 17, I was allowed to drive a 190SL in the local July 4th parade.

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Car Trouble

I WAS HAPPY TO receive this year’s boost to my Social Security benefit—but I’m regularly reminded that it doesn’t match the endless inflation.
A case in point: The same oil change at the same gas station for my 2020 Honda Fit cost me 28% more last week than it did nine months earlier. With detailed invoices, I could compare the reasons for the jump. Surprisingly, it wasn’t the cost of four quarts of full synthetic oil,

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It Also Has Wheels

WE’VE OWNED OUR NEW 2023 Toyota Highlander Hybrid for six weeks. The technology and features are breath-taking. Until now, both of our vehicles were 18 years old. I feel like Rip Van Winkle, waking up in a time I do not recognize.
Here are some of the bells and whistles on our new SUV, and my evaluation of their usefulness. Please forgive me if some of this information isn’t accurate; I’m still learning about these features.

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About That Fine Print

CAR LEASING WILL likely make a comeback in 2023. But is leasing a good idea?
Before the pandemic, leases represented about 30% of new car sales and as much as 70% or 80% for some luxury vehicles. But during the pandemic, with new vehicles in short supply, manufacturers reduced their generous lease subsidies. This, combined with low interest rates, reduced payment differences between financing and leasing, making leasing less attractive.
But that may be about to change.

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Spotlight: Marsh

Passing It On

I KNOW I'M NOT WISE. Still, I’ve picked up enough wisdom to realize I didn’t have much of it when I was younger. At the very least, 60 years of stubbed toes, slips and falls have shown me that some paths shouldn’t be trod, while a few are worth traveling. I try to refrain from offering unsolicited advice. But I’ve lately had a growing desire to steer young adults toward choices that escaped my notice when I was their age—with a focus on three areas: Think about who came before us. As young adults, we frequently encounter situations that are new to us, but perhaps not to old timers. For instance, on the first day at a new job, or maybe as a new member at a place of worship, notice that you’re stepping into a structure that’s already in place. The old guys and gals may be doing a lot wrong, but they must also be doing something right. Asking for advice before offering it can ease acceptance of a brilliant idea, and may even help refine and improve it. I still cringe at the memory of situations when I failed to recognize my cluelessness. In the investment world, a plunging 401(k) can be unnerving for a first-timer. At such a moment, encouraging words from someone who’s seen a downturn or two can ease a young investor’s jitters. Meanwhile, in a buoyant market, young investors may be blind to risks that often go unnoticed by the uninitiated. It’s also good to remember that we can be a newbie, even when we’re old. Every year, I sail into unfamiliar waters, but that doesn’t mean they’re uncharted. Chances are, someone has tackled the task before or faced the same financial decision. If I’m smart enough to recognize my ignorance, the advice I need…
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Just Say Noël

MY FAMILY IS FRUGAL all year long, even during the Christmas season. We’re modest with our gifts and sparing with our decorations. Each year, our sprucing up consists of one cut-your-own Christmas tree trimmed with the same ornaments we used the year before. I can’t say the same for our neighbors. They pull out all the stops to create a seasonal spectacle. There’s no need to take a long, cold sleigh ride to the North Pole to scope out Santa and his companions frolicking in snowy splendor. A short drive around my neighborhood reveals reindeer prancing across lawns and elves dancing in doorways. Santa himself strolls among candy canes or climbs down the chimney with a sack full of goodies. Strings of lights festoon trees, fences and eaves. It’s just as well Mrs. Claus stays home on Christmas Eve. She would be holly green with envy if she could see the dressed-up digs around here, and Santa’s wallet would be a lot lighter. I’ve never been tempted to follow suit before. But this year, I decided to see what all the fuss is about—and how much it costs to be fussy. With that in mind, I sat down one evening for some e-commerce on the computer. As a Noël novice, I know I can’t compete with the decorating doyens right out of the starting gate. I just hope to raise our neighborhood standing a couple of notches by adding a little more Christmastide curbside appeal. Icicle lights for the eaves at $24 a strand seemed like a painless beginning, until I realized I needed five to span the distance. Holiday necessity also demanded a $24 single strand for the rest of the roof, along with seven lighted green garlands for the porch columns at $40 each. The house will be…
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On My Own Time

WHO OWNS TIME? WE speak of “my time” and “your time” as if it were a possession we hold in our hands. But we can’t stash it away for future use, nor can we trade or transfer our allotment to another person. Is it truly ours? For the moment, let’s say that it is. Appraising time. How much do we value our time? Some days, we treat it as a precious commodity. On those days, if we’re in a generous mood, we’ll share minutes with a friend or donate them to a cause that stirs our passions. Alternatively, we might be time-stingy. We value our seconds more than people. We zealously hoard our hours, begrudging the moments others manage to wheedle away from us. Either way, it’s obvious that time is a treasure. But we can also be careless with time. We may mindlessly go about our workday, going through the motions until quitting time arrives. Once home, we aimlessly click on internet articles or flip through television channels, lingering until the clock or exhaustion announces our bedtime. Instead of managing time well, we just manage to make it to the ends of the weeks that become months that accumulate into years. What does it matter? If I’m indeed master of my time, who’s to say I can’t treat it as I please? Maybe no one. But consider a couple of other perspectives. Some religions, including my own Christianity, believe time is part of creation. God is eternal, and therefore outside of time, but all else is subject to the ravages of time’s relentless passage. It’s a gift to be used wisely, like all resources entrusted to us. Though I may fall short of that mark, my failure doesn’t relieve me of my responsibility. Even if we don’t hold this view,…
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Looking to Leap

I'M THINKING ABOUT retirement—again. But this time, it isn’t my retirement, but rather my wife’s. I earn our family’s primary paycheck, so I’m usually the focus of our discussions when we sit down to scrutinize the numbers and comb through the calendar, looking for a date when we should each hang up our physical therapist’s goniometer. Even though I earn the bigger income, my wife has diligently worked just as long as I have, albeit in a changing capacity. In our 30s, we each began second careers as physical therapists at more or less the same time. I talked her into a blind date the week I started my first physical therapy job. She graduated PT school a couple of months later, and began work shortly thereafter. For five of the first seven years of our marriage, we spent most of our work days side-by-side in the same outpatient clinic. After our daughter was born, my wife’s hours on the job dwindled, while her responsibilities at home increased. On weekdays, she now applies her experience as a former high school biology teacher to instructing our daughter at home. On top of that, she acts as caregiver to family members, including round-the-clock on-call assistance for any needs that arise. And then, of course, there’s the usual tasks involved in keeping up a home. I help, but the brunt of the burden falls on my wife. Despite her hectic schedule, my wife continues to make a small but significant contribution at our workplace. She gives a few hours each month, plus some holidays, at our acute care hospital. Every few months, I ask if she’s ready to retire from her work away from home. My question brings a thoughtful expression, then the same reply of “not yet.” Our ongoing conversation about our…
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A Lifetime of Loss

WE SUFFER LOSSES throughout our life. During our youth, we might leave old chums behind when our family starts fresh in a new town or when we go away to college. Later, a job loss or a divorce could leave us drained both financially and emotionally. But for most of us, our senior years are when loss hits hardest. Our body is often the first casualty, especially the face we see in the mirror each morning. At some point, the dents and dings of time take their toll on that image. My own visage is covered with sun-damaged skin and topped by silver hair. I’ve grown used to the view, but occasionally I’m startled by the realization I look old. Achy joints and stiff muscles add another dimension to the picture. My complaints are minor, usually no more than a nuisance, but probably portend more serious problems down the road. Vision and hearing deficits have already arrived. The ophthalmologist is keeping an eye on my cataracts, and my wife says I’m overdue for hearing aids. Meanwhile, gravity is beginning to win—again. We all start life held fast to the earth, staying put where we’re placed. As our strength grows, most of us commence to roll, then progress to sitting and crawling, until we eventually lift ourselves to our feet and begin to walk. We may stay in motion for decades, never thinking of life without mobility. Young bodies generally do our bidding. They run all day until we drop into bed with exhaustion, then jump up at dawn to begin the race again. But one day, our strength begins to fade, or we’re laid low by injury or disease. As a physical therapist, the core of my practice is helping folks either remain in motion or get moving again. Whether…
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Happiness at Home

I HAVE READ THAT spending on experiences brings more happiness than spending on things. But what about the experience of buying? Can that make us happy? I’ve lived in my small community for 21 years. Over that time, my regular buying habits have led me to discover people who provide me with excellent service. They also supply me with a generous measure of genuine satisfaction. Every third Friday, I sit and listen to a great raconteur as he cuts my hair. Rick’s stories are sometimes touching, sometimes indignant, but always humorous. His talk is voluminous and rapid. I have to slide in my stories edgewise. Rick gets a raise as my income goes up, and I don’t mind paying it. I leave with a happy heart as well as a haircut. I own several gasoline-powered tools, which means I frequent a shop run by Javin, a master of small engine repair.  We always take a moment to catch up. He updates me on his father, who operated the shop before an illness forced him into early retirement. We worry about the weather, which affects his business and my garden. I could save money by doing some repairs and maintenance myself, and sometimes I do, but I don’t mind giving work to Javin. I find pleasure in doing my part to keep his business open. My heart sank the day last year that Arnie told me he was closing his car repair shop to take a teaching job at the local technical college. For years, he had helped me milk more miles out of my cars. I was happy for him, though, because I knew dependable help was scarce and he was overworked. Arnie didn’t leave me stranded. He recommended a mechanic friend who has since proven his worth. I’m hopeful that…
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