If you waste money, you can make more. If you waste time, life gets old really fast.
I ALWAYS THOUGHT my father was a brave man. It wasnât just because he served in World War II. It had to do with a few incidents that I witnessed.
Iâll never forget when my dad and I went to McDonald's for a late evening meal. I was probably in the eighth grade. I believe my mother was working late that night. It must have been a Friday because a lot of teenagers were hanging out in the parking lot.
It was the 1960s, when folks would often eat their food in their car. While we were consuming our burgers and fries, a fight broke out in the parking lot. I said to myself, âWe should get out of here before things really get out of control.â But my father thought otherwise. We were going to finish our meal.
There were three teenagers in the car next to us. They started to get out of their vehicle to join the fight. My dad wasnât a big man, and these three guys looked like they were big enough to be on the high school football team.
Still, my dad stuck his head out of the window and yelled, âGet back in your car.â Those guys looked at my dad, and slowly sat back down and shut the car doors. I donât know what my dad would have done if theyâd ignored him.
We stayed until order was restored. I always thought my dad was courageous that night. Today, some might say he was foolish.
But what might have been even more courageous was when my father accepted a job in California. In summer 1961, when we lived in Canton, Ohio, my dad answered a help wanted ad in the local newspaper. It was for a job as a machinist in Los Angeles. At the time, Southern California companies were looking for skilled labor.
He was offered the job after a telephone interview. Although the company paid all our travel expenses, I often thought it took courage for my father to uproot his family, head to a faraway place heâd never seen, and leave his job to work for a company he knew little about.
We drove our 1956 Ford Fairlane on a long, hot and humid journey across the country in hopes of a better life. I remember it was so hot in Arizona we had to hang a bag full of ice over the radiator to keep the car from overheating.
The company paid for our stay at a motel in Culver City. My dad would go to work during the day at a machine shop that did work for aerospace companies. My mother, sister and I hung around the motel, waiting for him to return. After a few days, it was clear California would be our new home, so my mother, sister and I took a train back to Canton to sell the house and most of our belongings. My parentsâ Ohio starter home sold for $10,000.
As a 10-year-old, I didnât realize that this cross-country trip was the start of my own journey to financial freedom. We werenât just driving that Ford Fairlane to Los Angeles so my parents could find steady employment. We were also going to a place where my sister and I would find more economic opportunities.
When I graduated college, there were still plenty of job opportunities with major aerospace companies in the area. I went on to enjoy a fulfilling career in the aerospace industry, and I owe much of my success to my parents and that old Ford that took us to a land of opportunity.
Now that Iâm retired, I sometimes think that my wife and I should take that cross-country trip in the other direction, in hopes of finding a better retirement. The cost of living is much cheaper in other parts of the country. In California, gasoline is more expensive and food prices are higher, plus our insurance premiums went up sharply this year.
We could sell our house and buy a nice home in the Midwest or the South, and still have money left over. But I think deciding where to live in retirement should involve more than money. I believe we have a better chance to live a longer and healthier life if we stay in Southern California.
We can have a more active lifestyle because the weather is milder here. We can walk, run, hike, bike, golf and work in our garden all year round. The summers can be hot, but not humid. Thereâs also less risk of falling down and breaking a hip during the winter season.
When I was in college, I had a professorâan older gentleman. On the first day of class, he was telling the students about himself. He said he recently moved to California from Indiana. For the sake of his health, his doctor recommended that he move to a place where the climate was milder.
While he was telling us his story, he began rubbing the top of his bald head. He said, âNot only do I think my health is better, I think my hair is starting to grow back.â
I don't think my hair will grow back. But like that professor, I think my wife and I have a better chance of living a longer and healthier life if we stay put.
Dennis Friedman retired from Boeing Satellite Systems after a 30-year career in manufacturing. Born in Ohio, Dennis is a California transplant with a bachelor's degree in history and an MBA. A self-described "humble investor," he likes reading historical novels and about personal finance. Check out his earlier articles and follow him on X @DMFrie. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
Adam M. Grossman is the founder of Mayport, a fixed-fee wealth management firm. Sign up for Adam's Daily Ideas email, follow him on X @AdamMGrossman and check out his earlier articles.NO. 51: RENTAL real estate can be a great investment. But itâs also a big, leveraged, undiversified bet and a lot of hassle. A diversified stock portfolio is less workâand arguably less risky.
NO. 110: ITEMIZED deductions only save you taxes to the degree they exceed your standard deduction. The total of your mortgage interest and other itemized deductions might seem impressive. But if that total is barely above the standard deduction, theyâll trim your taxable income by just a modest amount, giving you tiny tax savings in return for huge dollars spent.
NO. 12: WE AREN'T good at figuring out what we truly wantâdubbed miswanting by psychologists. We imagine a bigger house or early retirement will make us happier. But if we achieve such things, we may discover they arenât that important to us. Thatâs why, instead of simply assuming we know what we want, we should think hard about our goals.
NET WORTH. To calculate our wealth, we need to add up our assets and then subtract all debts. What counts as an asset? Include financial accounts and any homes you own. Ignore cars, furniture and other household possessions, because these depreciate over timeâand they typically canât be sold, because you canât reasonably live without them.
NO. 51: RENTAL real estate can be a great investment. But itâs also a big, leveraged, undiversified bet and a lot of hassle. A diversified stock portfolio is less workâand arguably less risky.
HOME EQUITY ROSE sharply since 2020 for most states, up 450% in West Virginia, the biggest change in the US.
The average homeowner currently has $313,000 of equity, according to the Mortgage Monitor report.
While that number is likely skewed, we all can agree that many homeowners are sitting on large equity.
And, there likely will come a time when you have to sell your home to either move elsewhere, upgrade, or downgrade. With such large equity also comes another problem –
This is a thought exercise.
Suppose that you owned a home in Pacific Palisades, or Altadena that was destroyed by one of the wildfires. You have been through a very tough time. The fires are out, and after reporting your loss, you are waiting to hear from the company adjuster. You have a big decision to make⊅Will you rebuild?
Our little housing area here in the PNW has about 2000 single family homes. The first ones were built in 1976,
We live in a small town in NJ, population 6,600. The median household income is $203,000, the median home value is $1,358,400 and the median property tax is $29,600. I feel like we live in a bubble and given these numbers are much higher than our state averages, which are third highest in the Country, I guess we do.
Between property taxes and HOA fees the minimum annual cost to live in our condo is $24,900.
AGING IN PLACE (So we thought)
Our journey started in the late 1980s with our first remodel. It was our second marriage, and rather than asking our teenage children to share a bedroom when it was âmy weekendâ, we created two bedrooms and a full bath on the lower level of our split-level. It was a suite with adjoining bedrooms and a private bath. That brought our bedroom count to six, making room for everyone.
Excellent article about DIY. My question to all HD readers: What are you willing to do instead of paying someone else to do it?
MY WIFE AND I HAD intended to live in our single-family home for the rest of our lives. We remodeled several times so we could age in place, and we were confident we were all set for the future.
We knew life could change in an instant. We just didnât think it would happen to us. My wife fell at home four years ago and suffered a traumatic brain injury. After six months in hospitals and rehab,
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I ALWAYS THOUGHT my father was a brave man. It wasnât just because he served in World War II. It had to do with a few incidents that I witnessed.
Iâll never forget when my dad and I went to McDonald's for a late evening meal. I was probably in the eighth grade. I believe my mother was working late that night. It must have been a Friday because a lot of teenagers were hanging out in the parking lot.
It was the 1960s, when folks would often eat their food in their car. While we were consuming our burgers and fries, a fight broke out in the parking lot. I said to myself, âWe should get out of here before things really get out of control.â But my father thought otherwise. We were going to finish our meal.
There were three teenagers in the car next to us. They started to get out of their vehicle to join the fight. My dad wasnât a big man, and these three guys looked like they were big enough to be on the high school football team.
Still, my dad stuck his head out of the window and yelled, âGet back in your car.â Those guys looked at my dad, and slowly sat back down and shut the car doors. I donât know what my dad would have done if theyâd ignored him.
We stayed until order was restored. I always thought my dad was courageous that night. Today, some might say he was foolish.
But what might have been even more courageous was when my father accepted a job in California. In summer 1961, when we lived in Canton, Ohio, my dad answered a help wanted ad in the local newspaper. It was for a job as a machinist in Los Angeles. At the time, Southern California companies were looking for skilled labor.
He was offered the job after a telephone interview. Although the company paid all our travel expenses, I often thought it took courage for my father to uproot his family, head to a faraway place heâd never seen, and leave his job to work for a company he knew little about.
We drove our 1956 Ford Fairlane on a long, hot and humid journey across the country in hopes of a better life. I remember it was so hot in Arizona we had to hang a bag full of ice over the radiator to keep the car from overheating.
The company paid for our stay at a motel in Culver City. My dad would go to work during the day at a machine shop that did work for aerospace companies. My mother, sister and I hung around the motel, waiting for him to return. After a few days, it was clear California would be our new home, so my mother, sister and I took a train back to Canton to sell the house and most of our belongings. My parentsâ Ohio starter home sold for $10,000.
As a 10-year-old, I didnât realize that this cross-country trip was the start of my own journey to financial freedom. We werenât just driving that Ford Fairlane to Los Angeles so my parents could find steady employment. We were also going to a place where my sister and I would find more economic opportunities.
When I graduated college, there were still plenty of job opportunities with major aerospace companies in the area. I went on to enjoy a fulfilling career in the aerospace industry, and I owe much of my success to my parents and that old Ford that took us to a land of opportunity.
Now that Iâm retired, I sometimes think that my wife and I should take that cross-country trip in the other direction, in hopes of finding a better retirement. The cost of living is much cheaper in other parts of the country. In California, gasoline is more expensive and food prices are higher, plus our insurance premiums went up sharply this year.
We could sell our house and buy a nice home in the Midwest or the South, and still have money left over. But I think deciding where to live in retirement should involve more than money. I believe we have a better chance to live a longer and healthier life if we stay in Southern California.
We can have a more active lifestyle because the weather is milder here. We can walk, run, hike, bike, golf and work in our garden all year round. The summers can be hot, but not humid. Thereâs also less risk of falling down and breaking a hip during the winter season.
When I was in college, I had a professorâan older gentleman. On the first day of class, he was telling the students about himself. He said he recently moved to California from Indiana. For the sake of his health, his doctor recommended that he move to a place where the climate was milder.
While he was telling us his story, he began rubbing the top of his bald head. He said, âNot only do I think my health is better, I think my hair is starting to grow back.â
I don't think my hair will grow back. But like that professor, I think my wife and I have a better chance of living a longer and healthier life if we stay put.
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