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Time Not Well Spent

MY RELATIONSHIP WITH money is complicated. I want to get the best value for our dollars, so I spend a lot of time comparison shopping. Other people hunt for bargains. I go on long safaris. My frugality and comparison shopping have served Jim and me well. In our double-income household, we managed to save 50% of our combined pay—basically living on one income and saving the rest. That, coupled with some lucky breaks, propelled us to early retirement. Going from saving for retirement to spending in retirement, however, brings with it a shift in mindset. You become less focused on getting the most from your dollars—and more focused on getting the most from your time. Yes, you still want to save money, but you need to balance that against the time and effort involved. That brings me to our retirement income plan. We have five years of living expenses in cash investments, so we can sleep at night without worrying about short-term stock market performance. But cash, of course, pays almost nothing these days, so I’m always looking for the best deal I can. Until recently, I conducted those searches from Spain, where we spent the first three years of our retirement until our recent move back to Dallas. To open new financial accounts in the U.S., we needed a U.S. address. To that end, like many expats, we rented a virtual mailbox. That gave us a physical address in the U.S., plus 24/7 access to our mail, all from the convenience of a laptop or smartphone. (This is different from a P.O. box from the postal service.) In the past few years, using our virtual mailbox address, I opened two new travel credit cards in the U.S. to earn mileage. That gave us enough promotional airline points to pay for roundtrip flights from Spain to both the U.S. and Thailand. I also used the address to open high-interest savings accounts with Customers Bank, Salem Five Bank and TIAA Bank. All this required relatively little time and effort—a few hours to search the internet and a few more hours to set up the new account and transfer the money electronically. Last November, however, I took the hunt for savings too far when I opened a Citi Priority checking account. Citi offered a $700 cash bonus for new customers if they maintained a balance of at least $50,000 for 60 days, equal to an annualized return of more than 8%. I transferred $1,000 to open the new Citi account and planned to transfer another $50,000 within 30 days. [xyz-ihs snippet="Mobile-Subscribe"] The bank’s account opening process was relatively easy and, as with all our other accounts, I used our virtual address. A few weeks later, I got an email from Citi saying it needed proof of my physical address and my identity. But without waiting for my response, Citi froze my account and sent it to “new account fraud.” After several phone calls with wait times that often lasted more than an hour, as well as text messages over several weeks, Citi admitted that it had caused the problem. It had violated the Patriot Act by opening my account without first validating my identity and address. I sent the bank a copy of my passport and driver’s license, along with a receipt showing that it was indeed me who paid for the virtual mailbox. But Citi still refused to unfreeze my account. After a few months of back and forth, I requested that Citi close my account and return my money the same way it had received it—by electronic bank transfer. Citi refused. A representative told me that Citi could only return the money by sending a check to a residential address and not to my virtual mailbox, even though I had provided proof that I owned the mailbox. I ended up filing complaints with the Office of the Comptroller of the Currency and with the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. I finally got my initial deposit mailed to my virtual mailbox—seven months after I opened the account. My experience was hardly unique. I discovered many other Citi Priority customers had faced similar situations. Citi either froze or closed their accounts, and then refused to return their money or refused to deposit the $700 promo incentive. We all have limited time and money. I’m mad about the $700 I never got. But mostly, I’m mad about the time I’ll never get back. Jiab Wasserman, MBA, RICP®, has lived in Thailand, the U.S. and Spain. She spent the bulk of her career with financial services companies, eventually becoming vice president of credit risk management at Bank of America, before retiring in 2018. Head to Linktree to learn more about Jiab, and also check out her earlier articles. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
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Jonathan’s Parting Thoughts: No. 7

"Assuming you live in a non community property state and the title to your half century + years owned home was joint with right of survivorship with your wife you may want to consider getting a formal, qualified retrospective home appraisal to document your wife's half interest of the property's fair market value as of the date of your wife's death (which became 1/2 of your home's tax basis at that date). If you expect a large taxable gain upon sale such a qualified appraisal may help avoid protracted arguments about your home's changed tax basis with state and federal taxing authorities that you will report for the year when you sell your home. You may want to note in your planning that as you did not sell the home in 2025 the $500K MFJ IRC 121 maximum exclusion of sale of your residence changed to the lower single $250K maximum exclusion in 2026. A third thing to consider in your tax planning is that when you sell if you do have a large taxable gain that as a person on Medicare parts B & D that gain may trigger additional IRMAA premiums in the second year after the gain occurs. I have considered establishing a revocable living trust (RLT) to transfer our home's title to but it currently seems likely that we or the surviving spouse will sell our home during life. If we change our planning and we agree that the survivor will live in our home through the end of life then a transfer to a RLT during life where our heirs (our children) should get a DOD step-up to the full 100% FMV and completely avoid any taxable gain on our home sale. We will make our final decision about a RLT in the next few years. I hope my thoughts help. Best, Bill"
- William Perry
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Behind The Finery

"I do understand your position, but isn’t all of this an example of life style creep? I think we can all be guilty of that regardless of our age or finances. Look at the party— 28 women and the deposit is $100 a head. Are all REALLY the closest friends? That number is large! And if the deposit is $100, the total cost is likely to be much greater — and this isn’t the wedding— just the run up. I’d guess that all the party participants are also invited to the weddin. So much more cost for them. They may well put the clothes for that event on credit cards (I doubt dresses from H&M will be acceptable) and each them will also have a plus one who will also need appropriate attire. Add in travel and hotel, and total grows. Also, it’s likely your daughter’s wedding might not be the only one they’ll attend this year. I don’t know about yours, but my wedding didn’t put that kind of financial pressure on my friends, My 58th anniversary is Monday."
- Marilyn Lavin
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Percentage that “age in place”

"A non-profit CCRC needs to spend 5% of revenue on charity care to maintain its tax exemption. Caring for residents who run out of money counts as charity care. Also, as residents die, new, younger, residents move in, and pay entry fees. My CCRC now has 1,300 households on the wait list, and many people pay a 0% refundable entry fee."
- mytimetotravel
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The Fear by Jonathan Clements

"Very good. Reminds me a lot of a piece called The Rookie that my now 15 year old niece has crafted to be deployed in various English exams she will face at the end of this school year. She reckons she can bend it into one of many prompts."
- bbbobbins
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A bleak picture for retirement in the future?

"If this wasn’t in the US my comment doesn’t apply"
- R Quinn
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The best state to retire? Take a close look.

"It sure does especially considering the public paid for the state pensions."
- R Quinn
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State Farm Dividend

"I just spoke with my State Farm agent and New Jersey is the only state that is NOT receiving a dividend!"
- Rick Connor
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Finding A Balance

"Thanks, Tom. “Everything comes at a price” is a good way of putting it. We can look back and remember all the things we missed, while our kids may remember something quite different, that we were there when it mattered. I suspect we’re often harder on ourselves in hindsight than those we were worried we neglected."
- Andrew Clements
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Inflation Hedge

THE OPEN KITCHEN restaurant has been a fixture in Charlotte, North Carolina for 75 years. The restaurant has an old-time feel, with memorabilia, including menus from years gone by, lining its walls. Those old menus provided David Enna, a financial journalist, with a laboratory for examining the effects of inflation. What did Enna find? The oldest menu on display is from 1963. To state the obvious, today’s prices make those from the 1960s look quaint. Back then, spaghetti and meatballs cost just $1.10. Today, it’s $15.50. But, as Enna points out, that was more than 60 years ago, so increases are to be expected. Over the past 60 years, the Consumer Price Index (CPI) has averaged 3.8% per year. That isn’t unreasonable, especially since that average includes the 1970s, when inflation sometimes topped 10%. What’s of more concern, though, is what consumers have experienced more recently. Since 2020, prices across the economy have risen 29%. And though those increases have slowed, the Fed is still struggling to ratchet inflation back to its preferred 2% level. This has given investors renewed interest in strategies to defend against inflation. At first glance, this doesn’t seem like it should be such a difficult problem. The U.S. Treasury offers an investment specifically designed for this purpose: Treasury Inflation-Protected Securities (TIPS). These are bonds that are guaranteed by the federal government to increase in value with inflation. And though I hesitate to use the words “bond” and “exciting” in the same sentence, today many investors are finding the return on TIPS compelling. The 30-year TIPS is now paying close to 3% on top of inflation. If inflation averages 2.5%, for example, over the next 30 years, this bond will end up returning a total of 5.5% per year, and with minimal risk. That sounds good in theory, but do these bonds make sense for your portfolio? It’s worth taking a closer look. The first thing to note is that this seemingly attractive 3% yield only applies to 30-year TIPS. Yields on shorter-term bonds are lower. So unless your investment horizon happens to be exactly 30 years, these bonds may be of limited practical value. Putting aside the yield question, though, a more fundamental challenge with individual TIPS—and individual bonds in general—is that they’re a cumbersome way to build a portfolio. Even if you didn’t mind the process of buying bonds one by one, which can be tedious, there’s the fact that it’s hard for most people to be able to forecast their cash flow needs each year into the future. That’s a problem because choosing maturity dates is the foundation on which bond portfolios are built. Ideally, if you can align the maturity dates of the bonds in your portfolio with your future cash needs, then you can hold bonds to maturity, which is when the issuer would promise to pay you back in full. But that redemption value is guaranteed only at maturity. Buy a 20-year bond and sell it after just 10 years, and there are no guarantees. A bondholder could easily lose money selling an individual bond before maturity. Given these challenges, would a TIPS fund be a better choice? To be sure, bond funds are much simpler to purchase and to manage, but they typically offer even less protection from losses than individual bonds. Most recently, shareholders in TIPS funds were disappointed by how they performed in 2022, when inflation spiked to 9%. Investors expected that to be the year when TIPS rewarded investors, but instead, diversified TIPS funds such as the Vanguard Inflation-Protected Securities Fund (ticker: VAIPX) lost nearly 12%. Why did funds like this fare so poorly when inflation was running so high? The problem is that, at the end of the day, TIPS are still bonds. And though they receive a bump in value when inflation rises, a countervailing force is that they lose value when interest rates rise. In 2022, the Federal Reserve raised interest rates aggressively to fight inflation. The negative impact from those rate increases far outweighed the benefit TIPS received from inflation being higher. That puts investors in a difficult position. If TIPS provide inflation protection in theory, but both individual TIPS and TIPS funds carry limitations, what other options are there? The good news is that not all TIPS funds are the same. Some hold only short-term bonds, and they have historically held up much better than more broadly diversified TIPS funds because short-term bonds are more resilient when interest rates rise. Over the past five years, a fund like Vanguard’s Short-Term Inflation-Protected Securities ETF (ticker: VTIP) has outperformed a comparable fund (ticker: VGSH) holding standard short-term Treasury bonds every year, as well as this year to-date. It’s important to note, though, that this is relative performance. In 2022, when the entire bond market was under pressure, even short-term TIPS funds like VTIP did still lose money. They just lost less than funds holding conventional bonds. The bottom line: We should never become too wedded to any one strategy. No investment can promise reliable and complete protection against inflation in every market scenario. That said, I do still recommend TIPS and would specifically recommend a short-term fund like VTIP. But I also suggest taking a diversified approach to inflation protection. Here are other steps to consider. If you’re in your 60s and considering when to claim Social Security, that decision offers a powerful lever. Because Social Security benefits increase with inflation and also increase with each year you delay claiming, it’s maybe the most effective way to build additional inflation protection into your plan. What else can you do? Fortunately, you may already own one of the most effective—and underappreciated—inflation-fighting instruments: stocks. While rising prices in recent years have been frustrating for consumers, the result has been that companies have been able to maintain their profit margins. That, in turn, has helped to support their stock prices through this period of inflation. To be sure, some companies have more of an ability to raise prices than others, but overall, stocks are, in my view, a good way to keep pace with inflation. The one thing I wouldn’t do is to buy gold. Despite its reputation, various studies have confirmed that gold really isn’t a reliable inflation hedge. In a paper titled “The Golden Dilemma,” researchers wrote: “Over practical investment horizons, gold is an unreliable inflation hedge,” though they acknowledge that it may be more reliable over longer timeframes—“if the investment horizon is measured in centuries.”   Adam M. Grossman is the founder of Mayport, a fixed-fee wealth management firm. Sign up for Adam's Daily Ideas email, follow him on X @AdamMGrossman and check out his earlier articles.  
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How do you prepare for the long term care cost as retiree?

"Your close friend’s father’s scenario is one of the reasons I want to be sure to get into a non profit CCRC before we turn eighty. Half of my direct family died with a form of dementia so getting into a facility earlier is a priority. We do not have LTC insurance but the CCRC will not kick my wife out if we run through all of our assets, and it will insure if we need it we will get high quality care when it becomes necessary. As I have written many times before my mother in law lived to 103 as did her aunt so there is a good chance so will my wife."
- DavidHLancaster
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Time Not Well Spent

MY RELATIONSHIP WITH money is complicated. I want to get the best value for our dollars, so I spend a lot of time comparison shopping. Other people hunt for bargains. I go on long safaris. My frugality and comparison shopping have served Jim and me well. In our double-income household, we managed to save 50% of our combined pay—basically living on one income and saving the rest. That, coupled with some lucky breaks, propelled us to early retirement. Going from saving for retirement to spending in retirement, however, brings with it a shift in mindset. You become less focused on getting the most from your dollars—and more focused on getting the most from your time. Yes, you still want to save money, but you need to balance that against the time and effort involved. That brings me to our retirement income plan. We have five years of living expenses in cash investments, so we can sleep at night without worrying about short-term stock market performance. But cash, of course, pays almost nothing these days, so I’m always looking for the best deal I can. Until recently, I conducted those searches from Spain, where we spent the first three years of our retirement until our recent move back to Dallas. To open new financial accounts in the U.S., we needed a U.S. address. To that end, like many expats, we rented a virtual mailbox. That gave us a physical address in the U.S., plus 24/7 access to our mail, all from the convenience of a laptop or smartphone. (This is different from a P.O. box from the postal service.) In the past few years, using our virtual mailbox address, I opened two new travel credit cards in the U.S. to earn mileage. That gave us enough promotional airline points to pay for roundtrip flights from Spain to both the U.S. and Thailand. I also used the address to open high-interest savings accounts with Customers Bank, Salem Five Bank and TIAA Bank. All this required relatively little time and effort—a few hours to search the internet and a few more hours to set up the new account and transfer the money electronically. Last November, however, I took the hunt for savings too far when I opened a Citi Priority checking account. Citi offered a $700 cash bonus for new customers if they maintained a balance of at least $50,000 for 60 days, equal to an annualized return of more than 8%. I transferred $1,000 to open the new Citi account and planned to transfer another $50,000 within 30 days. [xyz-ihs snippet="Mobile-Subscribe"] The bank’s account opening process was relatively easy and, as with all our other accounts, I used our virtual address. A few weeks later, I got an email from Citi saying it needed proof of my physical address and my identity. But without waiting for my response, Citi froze my account and sent it to “new account fraud.” After several phone calls with wait times that often lasted more than an hour, as well as text messages over several weeks, Citi admitted that it had caused the problem. It had violated the Patriot Act by opening my account without first validating my identity and address. I sent the bank a copy of my passport and driver’s license, along with a receipt showing that it was indeed me who paid for the virtual mailbox. But Citi still refused to unfreeze my account. After a few months of back and forth, I requested that Citi close my account and return my money the same way it had received it—by electronic bank transfer. Citi refused. A representative told me that Citi could only return the money by sending a check to a residential address and not to my virtual mailbox, even though I had provided proof that I owned the mailbox. I ended up filing complaints with the Office of the Comptroller of the Currency and with the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. I finally got my initial deposit mailed to my virtual mailbox—seven months after I opened the account. My experience was hardly unique. I discovered many other Citi Priority customers had faced similar situations. Citi either froze or closed their accounts, and then refused to return their money or refused to deposit the $700 promo incentive. We all have limited time and money. I’m mad about the $700 I never got. But mostly, I’m mad about the time I’ll never get back. Jiab Wasserman, MBA, RICP®, has lived in Thailand, the U.S. and Spain. She spent the bulk of her career with financial services companies, eventually becoming vice president of credit risk management at Bank of America, before retiring in 2018. Head to Linktree to learn more about Jiab, and also check out her earlier articles. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
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Jonathan’s Parting Thoughts: No. 7

"Assuming you live in a non community property state and the title to your half century + years owned home was joint with right of survivorship with your wife you may want to consider getting a formal, qualified retrospective home appraisal to document your wife's half interest of the property's fair market value as of the date of your wife's death (which became 1/2 of your home's tax basis at that date). If you expect a large taxable gain upon sale such a qualified appraisal may help avoid protracted arguments about your home's changed tax basis with state and federal taxing authorities that you will report for the year when you sell your home. You may want to note in your planning that as you did not sell the home in 2025 the $500K MFJ IRC 121 maximum exclusion of sale of your residence changed to the lower single $250K maximum exclusion in 2026. A third thing to consider in your tax planning is that when you sell if you do have a large taxable gain that as a person on Medicare parts B & D that gain may trigger additional IRMAA premiums in the second year after the gain occurs. I have considered establishing a revocable living trust (RLT) to transfer our home's title to but it currently seems likely that we or the surviving spouse will sell our home during life. If we change our planning and we agree that the survivor will live in our home through the end of life then a transfer to a RLT during life where our heirs (our children) should get a DOD step-up to the full 100% FMV and completely avoid any taxable gain on our home sale. We will make our final decision about a RLT in the next few years. I hope my thoughts help. Best, Bill"
- William Perry
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Behind The Finery

"I do understand your position, but isn’t all of this an example of life style creep? I think we can all be guilty of that regardless of our age or finances. Look at the party— 28 women and the deposit is $100 a head. Are all REALLY the closest friends? That number is large! And if the deposit is $100, the total cost is likely to be much greater — and this isn’t the wedding— just the run up. I’d guess that all the party participants are also invited to the weddin. So much more cost for them. They may well put the clothes for that event on credit cards (I doubt dresses from H&M will be acceptable) and each them will also have a plus one who will also need appropriate attire. Add in travel and hotel, and total grows. Also, it’s likely your daughter’s wedding might not be the only one they’ll attend this year. I don’t know about yours, but my wedding didn’t put that kind of financial pressure on my friends, My 58th anniversary is Monday."
- Marilyn Lavin
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Percentage that “age in place”

"A non-profit CCRC needs to spend 5% of revenue on charity care to maintain its tax exemption. Caring for residents who run out of money counts as charity care. Also, as residents die, new, younger, residents move in, and pay entry fees. My CCRC now has 1,300 households on the wait list, and many people pay a 0% refundable entry fee."
- mytimetotravel
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The Fear by Jonathan Clements

"Very good. Reminds me a lot of a piece called The Rookie that my now 15 year old niece has crafted to be deployed in various English exams she will face at the end of this school year. She reckons she can bend it into one of many prompts."
- bbbobbins
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A bleak picture for retirement in the future?

"If this wasn’t in the US my comment doesn’t apply"
- R Quinn
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The best state to retire? Take a close look.

"It sure does especially considering the public paid for the state pensions."
- R Quinn
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State Farm Dividend

"I just spoke with my State Farm agent and New Jersey is the only state that is NOT receiving a dividend!"
- Rick Connor
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Manifesto

NO. 9: WE SPEND too much time fretting over our investments—where there’s limited room to add value—and too little on other financial issues, like taxes, insurance and estate planning.

Truths

NO. 98: INSURANCE companies typically pay out less in claims than they receive in premiums. Result: For most buyers, insurance will be a money loser—which is what you want, because it's a sign that life is good. But because it’s a money loser, you should only insure against major financial risks, while committing to cover smaller losses out of your own pocket.

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MIRRORINGWe often unintentionally mimic others. If, say, our friends are thrifty, we might also spend less. But mirroring isn’t always beneficial: If our neighbors are day traders, there’s a risk we’ll also speculate on hot stocks. Similarly, salespeople often use mirroring to build customer rapport—and we could find ourselves buying products we shouldn’t.

Truths

NO. 75: IF YOU BUY and hold individual stocks or stock index funds in a regular taxable account, you can defer taxes, just like you can in a retirement account. Any capital-gains tax bill is postponed until you sell. But for this tax deferral to be truly valuable, you need super-low portfolio turnover, holding investments for 10 or preferably 20 years.

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Manifesto

NO. 9: WE SPEND too much time fretting over our investments—where there’s limited room to add value—and too little on other financial issues, like taxes, insurance and estate planning.

Spotlight: Charity

More Than Enough

IF YOU’RE LIKE MANY readers of this site, you’ll reach your 60s and discover one of those nice problems to have—that you’ve over-saved for retirement.
What now? For answers, check out a new book, More Than Enough: A Brief Guide to the Questions That Arise After Realizing You Have More than You Need. Author Mike Piper is the driving force behind both the Oblivious Investor website and the free Open Social Security calculator.

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Santa Claus Rally

THERE ARE FEW certainties in life, but December always brings a few. Our neighbors will decorate their houses with bright lights, our mailbox will be stuffed with letters asking for charitable donations and the financial pundits will speculate whether there’ll be a Santa Claus rally this year.

If you’re a regular reader of HumbleDollar, you know that a Santa Claus rally has the potential to fill our portfolios with extra dollars via higher stock and mutual fund prices.

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Our Charity

WHEN I WAS IN THE workforce, it was easy to give to charity. Now that I’m semi-retired, it seems like more of a struggle—for four reasons:

Because I’m no longer employed fulltime, I can’t donate through payroll deduction, which used to make giving simple and automatic.
Leaving fulltime employment often results in reduced or uncertain income, and sometimes both. Today, I find it harder to know how much I can afford to give.
Retirement heightens thoughts of leaving a legacy to children and other heirs.

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Giving Advice

GOT CHARITABLE giving on your mind? Join the crowd. Many folks donate at this time of year, with their charitable giving driven by the charities themselves.

As solicitations arrive, people decide on a case-by-case basis whether to pull out their checkbooks. But some folks follow a more structured process, and that’s the approach I favor. It includes asking these three questions:

1. How much ideally would you like to give? As a starting point,

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Saving and Giving

I’m curious how folks have balanced considerations of financial security and charitable giving, particularly (but not only) those who share the Christian faith.
I’m in my early 40s. I have a wife (like me, a public employee) and two young children, and I have the opportunity to take a higher-paying job within my organization in the coming months.  I don’t anticipate increasing my spending with increasing income, at least not to any substantial degree. Rather, I’d either increase my savings,

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Gifts That Give Back

IF YOU’RE IN YOUR 70s or older and you are charitably inclined, it’s time to get acquainted with one of your best financial friends: the qualified charitable distribution, or QCD.
A QCD is a distribution that’s made directly from your IRA to an organization eligible to receive tax-deductible contributions. A QCD counts toward your annual required minimum distribution, or RMD. But unlike a regular RMD, the QCD won’t add to your taxable income for the year—a potentially huge advantage.

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Spotlight: Wasserman

One Day at a Time

JIM AND I RECENTLY moved from Granada, our first home in Spain, to Alicante, a city by the Mediterranean. The move gives us the opportunity to walk along the coast each day. A few weeks ago, we hiked a rugged coastal trail that’s part of a nature preserve, with an ancient Roman dock still partially visible. Along the coastline, you can also see how layers of sand have built up over the centuries, compacting together to form the breathtaking sandstone hills we enjoy today. It’s a reminder of how small acts can have a significant impact over time. I’ve always liked the expression, “In one day, you can’t do much, but over a long period of time you can accomplish a lot.” Small acts can yield a high—and even exponential—return, given enough time. Such returns aren’t just financial. Here are three small acts that, if performed regularly, can help us reap large rewards in the long run. 1. Save and invest every month. Thanks to the gender wealth gap, this is especially important for women. I started saving as soon as I got my first regular job. In 1993, I worked in a public library, where I earned slightly more than minimum wage. The job allowed me to contribute pretax dollars to a 457 plan. When I left the library, my balance was a bit under $2,000. Since then, I transferred it to an IRA and, the last time I checked, the balance was almost $10,000. In all my subsequent jobs in financial services, and as my income increased, I would max out my 401(k) and continue to save regardless of the economic situation, whether it be boom or bust. In fact, recessions and the accompanying stock market decline were the best time to invest, because the same dollar amount had…
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Takes Skill

I WAS SELECTED IN 2015 for the “leadership pipeline program” at the major bank where I worked. It was a 10-month-long program for minority employees just below executive level. We were selected to learn all about corporate culture and what it took to advance to the next level. I felt honored to be among such talented and promising employees. Participants were from various departments from across the U.S.—technology, risk management, operations, compliance, human resources, retail banking, commercial lending and investments. The program opened with a one-week in-person training session at the bank’s corporate headquarters in Charlotte, North Carolina, followed by monthly meetings via video conferencing and online courses. Each participant was assigned a mentor from the executive level. The people I met in the program were diverse in terms of experience, education and age. We were all united, however, in wanting to learn the skills necessary to move up the corporate ladder. Rather than particular job skills, however, a major emphasis of the program was networking. “It’s not what you know but who you know.” Over and over, making the right connections was emphasized. The bank encouraged us to join multiple affinity groups (Asian, veteran, Latino, Native American, women, LGBT, African American and so on), to socialize and connect across divisions and departments, and to reach out to executives. In other words, we needed to promote ourselves if we wanted to move up to the next level. The emphasis on self-promotion as a career strategy never quite sat right with me. Partly, it’s because I’m an introvert. But mostly, I saw a problem with focusing so much on building a network. I always thought that the time and energy spent maintaining these relationships and joining the many affinity groups would, instead, be better spent learning new skills. And there’s a big…
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Buen Camino

ON APRIL 3, MY HUSBAND Jim and I were among 262 pilgrims who made our way into Santiago de Compostela to receive an official pilgrim’s certificate for completing the required distance along one of the famous El Camino’s several routes—the most popular of which is some 500 miles. We were now certified peregrinos, or pilgrims. Because it was early in the season, ours was one of the slow days for Camino completion. Last August, 2,000 certificates per day were issued. Walking El Camino is gaining in popularity not just with Spaniards, but also with folks from around the world. In 2018, there were 327,328 certificates issued, compared to just 2,491 in 1986. This begs the question: Why do people commit themselves to such an arduous walk, which can take weeks to complete? In an age that provides convenience, comfort, speed and efficiency, thousands from around the globe walk hundreds of miles, enduring considerable physical demands, long periods of solitude, and deprivation from most modern comforts and conveniences. I can’t answer that question for all pilgrims. But I can honestly say that it was one of the most memorable experiences of my life. The certificate at the end was, of course, nice to receive, but that was the least of it. In The Pilgrimage, Paulo Coelho wrote, “It is the road that teaches us the best way to get there, and the road enriches us as we walk its length.” El Camino enriched me in three ways: I had the feeling of being fully present. I recently retired after working more than 25 years in the business world, where I had to be simultaneously mindful of the past, the current situation and the future. The simple act of walking, putting one foot in front of the other for mile after mile, hour after hour, brought…
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Time Not Well Spent

MY RELATIONSHIP WITH money is complicated. I want to get the best value for our dollars, so I spend a lot of time comparison shopping. Other people hunt for bargains. I go on long safaris. My frugality and comparison shopping have served Jim and me well. In our double-income household, we managed to save 50% of our combined pay—basically living on one income and saving the rest. That, coupled with some lucky breaks, propelled us to early retirement. Going from saving for retirement to spending in retirement, however, brings with it a shift in mindset. You become less focused on getting the most from your dollars—and more focused on getting the most from your time. Yes, you still want to save money, but you need to balance that against the time and effort involved. That brings me to our retirement income plan. We have five years of living expenses in cash investments, so we can sleep at night without worrying about short-term stock market performance. But cash, of course, pays almost nothing these days, so I’m always looking for the best deal I can. Until recently, I conducted those searches from Spain, where we spent the first three years of our retirement until our recent move back to Dallas. To open new financial accounts in the U.S., we needed a U.S. address. To that end, like many expats, we rented a virtual mailbox. That gave us a physical address in the U.S., plus 24/7 access to our mail, all from the convenience of a laptop or smartphone. (This is different from a P.O. box from the postal service.) In the past few years, using our virtual mailbox address, I opened two new travel credit cards in the U.S. to earn mileage. That gave us enough promotional airline points to pay…
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Anchors Aweigh

THE DALLAS HOUSING market has recently shown signs of slowing. In our townhome community, I’ve noticed that houses are sitting unsold for longer. Until recently, any place on the market for more than seven days was considered unusually long. Two weeks ago, we became interested in buying a two bedroom, two bath townhome on our street as a rental property. It was listed at $375,000. Upon a closer look, however, we found the following: The property hasn’t been upgraded since 1988. We also found several structural problems, including a major foundation crack that seemed to cut across the front room. The roof, heating and cooling system, and hot water heater all needed replacing. The county tax appraised value is $305,000, which is based on the assumption the house is in average condition and hence doesn’t factor in the structural problems and the lack of upkeep and updating. That $305,000 works out to $188 per square foot, significantly below the list price of $230 per square foot. Based on the condition and the expected repairs, we made an offer of $280,000, or $95,000 lower than the list price. Yes, that was a big difference. But considering all the repairs needed and the cooling housing market, we thought it fair. The seller countered with $359,000. We walked away. It struck me that this was a classic example of anchoring bias—the inordinate influence of the first piece of information encountered. With a home sale, the initial price is typically seen as an anchoring point, whether that price is reasonable or not. I suspect the owner set the selling price based on market conditions in early spring, and then failed to adjust the price despite sharply higher mortgage rates and a recent high cancellation rate for home-sale contracts. Even our own realtor thought our…
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Trust Betrayed

BEFORE I RETIRED, I was a credit risk manager. I had to take compliance courses annually. One course focused on financial abuse, especially of the elderly. I learned that the most common perpetrators are not strangers, but family members, friends and caregivers who take advantage of too-trusting seniors. But it’s one thing to know this theoretically—and quite another to find out it’s happening in your own family. I previously wrote about now both my late father and his close friend were victims of financial abuse. After we discovered what was happening, I thought my three siblings and I had straightened out the family finances. My youngest brother and I live in the U.S., while my parents were in Thailand. We all agreed that my two middle brothers, who live in Bangkok, should be co-guardians of my parents and their finances. My father was dying of Parkinson’s and my mother was deteriorating mentally and physically, so it made sense to let my brothers have complete control. We split my parents’ money, enough to last the rest of their lives, between my two brothers in 2019. We had regular Zoom calls to discuss my parents’ physical condition and financial situation. One of my brothers sent us an accounting every quarter, while the other didn’t. When, in early 2020, we finally confronted the brother who hadn’t provided any sort of accounting, he admitted that the money he oversaw was gone. We consulted an attorney and were advised that we could go to the police to have him arrested. In the end, we decided against it for my mom’s sake. It would have devastated her. My other brother still has the other half of my parents’ money in his care, which should be enough for my mom, now that my father has passed. Losing my…
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